Random Incoherent Irritation
May. 7th, 2008 11:05 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sevendeadlyfunMy last name is not the same as my husband's last name. I'm not a radical feminist, I just like my name. My parents worked hard on it and frankly, marriage didn't make me a brand-new person. It just gave me a whole new range of shopping options.So, I didn't change my name.
My son's last name is not the same as my husband's (who is his father) last name. Why? We like my name better. Also, my husband has the unsexy type of father issues and we don't talk about it much because it makes the scowl lines between his forehead twitch. But whatever...my name is more fun and, like the family I got it from, a guarantee that at any moment someone will say something slightly insane, thus provoking waves of helpless laughter.
So why, when I call to register my son for kindergarten, do I get a letter addressed to the "parents/guardians of Kid (Insert Husband's Last Name)"? No seriously. Telling them his name was (for example) John Smith isn't good enough because that doesn't match my husband's last name and a sign I've obviously been hitting the Froot Loops too hard.
Arbitrarily changing my child's name to match my husband's? One of the few occasions which cause me to hurl imprecations down on an obviously patriarchal culture. I can understand assuming that my husband and my son have the same last name. But after I've TOLD you what his name is...
*dissolves into incoherent irritation, slight degree of frothing involved*
My son's last name is not the same as my husband's (who is his father) last name. Why? We like my name better. Also, my husband has the unsexy type of father issues and we don't talk about it much because it makes the scowl lines between his forehead twitch. But whatever...my name is more fun and, like the family I got it from, a guarantee that at any moment someone will say something slightly insane, thus provoking waves of helpless laughter.
So why, when I call to register my son for kindergarten, do I get a letter addressed to the "parents/guardians of Kid (Insert Husband's Last Name)"? No seriously. Telling them his name was (for example) John Smith isn't good enough because that doesn't match my husband's last name and a sign I've obviously been hitting the Froot Loops too hard.
Arbitrarily changing my child's name to match my husband's? One of the few occasions which cause me to hurl imprecations down on an obviously patriarchal culture. I can understand assuming that my husband and my son have the same last name. But after I've TOLD you what his name is...
*dissolves into incoherent irritation, slight degree of frothing involved*